11 January 2017: My 3rd anniversary
Today, I want to answer a question that people have always asked me: How did you survive a long distance relationship for 3 years??Being over 6000 miles away from the person you love can be a really tough thing to do but as they say “absence makes the heart grow fonder”. Believe it or not, I actually don’t mind that my relationship has been a long distance one, at least for now. I certainly know that I will be moving to New York (My fiancée’s home) in roughly 2 years and through it all, I’ve taken advantage of what little time I have left here in Lebanon to really focus on the positives. Here are some of the things that help me stay positive as well as a few of the things I’ve learned through this experience :
1- Focusing on my studies and my career:
My studies are the main reason why I haven’t made the big move yet. Being “alone” and with a goal in mind has helped me focus and has made me more motivated to begin exploring career options and figuring out what it is that I want to do in life. In turn, that has led me to seek out internships and to put my mind to studying and getting good grades.
2- Valuable time when reunited :
Looking forward to see each other and knowing that the time has neared is when I really get excited and begin to plan months ahead about the places we’ll go and and adventures we’ll have when we’re together. Those are some of the moments that keep me going strong.
3- Getting to know each other more:
Communication between one another is a big part of our relationship. Our conversations are more interesting, deep and meaningful and our relationship is more than physical. I get to learn a lot from him as well as things like his habits and his ways, his home town, and everything else in between. Without the right amount of communication, compassion, and understanding, none of this would be.
4- Technology and how it helps communication:
In this day and age, we are blessed with applications such as FaceTime and Skype which we do a ton of. Viber and Whatsapp have become necessities as they are the main platforms in which him and I communicate daily. And sometimes, on occasion, a letter here and there. Spending 5 hours on the phone in a single day is quite normal for us which often leads to high data usage that I can’t seem to control! But seriously, seeing his face with just a click is something I am thankful for.
5- More time for friends:
My friends and family are everything to me! Knowing that I would be moving away one day and that things wouldn’t be the same is truly difficult to accept. But that’s part of life, you accept the process of growing up and that there will be life changing moments and people which you will encounter. That is why I try and cherish each and every moment and make every second count with them by my side.
6- Time for yourself :
Everyone needs alone time here and there and I believe that it is necessary. I have found that having me time helps me focus on things that allow me to better myself such as going to the gym,
reading a book, relaxation, and clearing my thoughts. It is essential that one allows their mind to be stress-free and without a worry once in a while.
7- Learning to be patient:
My last point to make is one that I feel is the most important. A Long distance relationship requires A LOT of patience, as if you didn’t know, and you will learn to have patience whether you like it or not. After 3 years and a constant 7 hour time difference, this relationship has taught me so much. Patience is one of the many things I learned through these years and it is something that I had to develop. No! I was not a very patient person; counting down till the next time I would see him was often unbearable and time seemed to move so slow. But through the acceptance of where my life has led me up until this point, I grew wiser and began to trust the process.
I really can’t sit here and say that it has been easy and that anyone can handle it, but what I can say is that I have made it through and I will continue to do so. It all comes down to the dedication towards one another and the relationship itself, a lot of work and commitment that continues to grow the trust between a couple, and the sacrifice each party is willing to make through the good and the bad which will make the love grow stronger.